Learning to Take Your Life Into Your Own Hands

Why do people always choose the victim role?

Who likes to leave their own Comfort zone? That is probably the fewest. Even if it sounds funny: For people who always put themselves in the victim role, this is exactly the comfort zone.

It’s convenient and you don’t have to take action yourself. You just keep talking yourself out of the misery and let others find the solutions to the problem. This is simply based on laziness.

But sometimes it’s also a feeling of superiority. Why should you bother with problems when there are plenty of others who aren’t smart enough to push them away? You think you’re a big step ahead of the others by sneakily keeping the work away from you.

Insecurity and fear of failure

Not infrequently, however, it is simply Uncertaintythat can make you prefer to stay in the victim role. You have FearYou are afraid of making the wrong decisions and of the consequences that might follow. You also feel uncomfortable when all eyes are on you.

Fear of failure are an important topic. You don’t want to be labeled as a good-for-nothing who only makes mistakes, even if this fear is actually unfounded. So you prefer to present yourself as the victim who can’t help it at all, but who has to endure the suffering anyway. That way, you won’t be threatened with any consequences and you’ll even get sympathy.

Need for attention

There are certainly people who slip into the victim role because they crave attention. If they do not succeed in obtaining this in other ways, for example because they are too introvert they choose the path of compassion. Humans are empathic beings, and these people take advantage of that.

Convenience robs opportunities

Life can be so easy if you always put yourself in the role of a victim and push away any responsibility. But are you actually aware of the fact that you always portray yourself as a weak person? You don’t face any challenges and rob yourself of any possibility to develop yourself further.

As a strong personality, you take things in hand and face them courageously. This is the only way you can grow and keep learning new things that will help you move forward. So get out of the victim role!